I know for a fact that two of my girlfriends are on their way to ruining their lives. Ruin it because they are madly in love with the idea of love and the warm fuzzy feelings that come with it, but thats it. The engagement must be deeper. After the initial fuz of dating, every couple come around to understanding that love does not pay rents, dinners, vacations or even those beautiful clothes.
My first girlfriend is a childhood friend. Her ignorance at the age of 28 is unbelievable, and she returned to this country with lots of suitcases and a broken heart. To overcome this grief she began the most tortous process of dating a long forgotten ex. In her desire to please she divulged information that must have been sworn to her heart.
The Man turned out to be deficient, misused her trust and now is misusing her vulnerability. The saddest bit for me is to watch history repeat itself generation after other, where I reckon the relevance of Wilde's profound observation that "all women become like their mothers, that is their tragedy, no man does thats his."
My girlfriend, albeit in a dillemma is barely intelligent to withstand the sudden pressures that seem to be invading her from all sides. She will buckle, get into a marriage and change all of herself for a man who perhaps would still love his mother more.
I have done my bit of warning, advising, suggesting, recommending... but not much works with reason. And so I watch her head in the direction of her mother. And then it spirals to the kids she'll have and how they might be replicas of her and the catastrophe is just endless.
I sit back mostly, amuse myself sporadically and believe that inspite of all this heartache, somewhere in between she'll be slightly wiser and undo her mother's mistakes.
As far as the second girlfriend is concerned it must suffice to say she is older, in a long distance relationship which if thought very deeply about, frankly does not exist. What do I do when I cant seem to be able to save them? Why would someone willingly get into something that promises to destroy them?
My first girlfriend is a childhood friend. Her ignorance at the age of 28 is unbelievable, and she returned to this country with lots of suitcases and a broken heart. To overcome this grief she began the most tortous process of dating a long forgotten ex. In her desire to please she divulged information that must have been sworn to her heart.
The Man turned out to be deficient, misused her trust and now is misusing her vulnerability. The saddest bit for me is to watch history repeat itself generation after other, where I reckon the relevance of Wilde's profound observation that "all women become like their mothers, that is their tragedy, no man does thats his."
My girlfriend, albeit in a dillemma is barely intelligent to withstand the sudden pressures that seem to be invading her from all sides. She will buckle, get into a marriage and change all of herself for a man who perhaps would still love his mother more.
I have done my bit of warning, advising, suggesting, recommending... but not much works with reason. And so I watch her head in the direction of her mother. And then it spirals to the kids she'll have and how they might be replicas of her and the catastrophe is just endless.
I sit back mostly, amuse myself sporadically and believe that inspite of all this heartache, somewhere in between she'll be slightly wiser and undo her mother's mistakes.
As far as the second girlfriend is concerned it must suffice to say she is older, in a long distance relationship which if thought very deeply about, frankly does not exist. What do I do when I cant seem to be able to save them? Why would someone willingly get into something that promises to destroy them?
